A friend came over to test the head gasket with a colour changing liquid. Couldn't see much difference myself so......
Driving it around to find its replacement it was overheating very quickly so we were sure it was on its last legs. However, this time, the top rad hose was hot and the bottom stone cold so i suspected thermostat. With that in mind i went all out to dismantle as much of the cooling system as i could and check the water pump, change the thermostat and do a proper flush of all areas and got a far bit of debris out of the system.
With everything back together its working fine now.
Will check for water loss as it can only be through combustion now as the system is leak free. I guess the system had an airlock somewhere that moved on and gave differing symptoms. And that airlock could be combustion related so will keep an eye out.
Good to have a positive resolution but angry that three independant professionals couldn't resolve something that an ameteur 'bodger' fixed in less than a day.

Older and more confused than I could ever imagine possible.