anyway, I am going to the national on Friday

now, this is the 4th time it has happened in just over a year, and last time I got a garage to do it, as I thought my tools were not acurate enough!
1000 miles later it has gone again! everything was done correctly, skimmed, re-ground, checked with a straight edge, re-torqued at 500 miles etc etc. The garage cant explain why it has gone again, they are going to have the head off and have a look tomrow, and if it all looks ok, put a new gasket on. and torque it down extra tight.
this is where I want your help, how tight should it go? last time it was done down to 45ps 60? 70? i don't want to do it any damage really, but I can see no alternative.