For anyone who's interested in how this developed, (electrics by the bodger of bodgers), this is how it went...
The original alternator was definitely dead and was going to cost quite a bit to recondition, so I found another alternator, a bit bigger but not too big for the engine to turn over, so better for the job really! It also had the right connections on the back. £20. Bargain.
So I fitted it to the boat, but struggled to get the ignition light to work. Didn't worry too much though as I continued to have good light in the boat for a week, running the engine every other day for a couple of hours. But when I went to start the engine after that week - nothing.
Hmm. More prodding with a voltmeter. There is charge coming out of the alternator along the ignition wire. Difficult to get at the charging wire so assumed there is charge there too. Batteries fine aswell - well they must have been holding the charge all that time and tested fine too. Is it perhaps the relay? Someone has put a loop onto it, implying it perhaps wasn't working right before - good I spotted that though as now I know I'm drawing from all three batteries when using lights etc., not just the 2 house batteries as previously thought... yes, look at that! When I put the charger on the starter battery my lights go bright! So, maybe the relay is also bust enough that it isn't letting charge through from the alternator? Hmm.
To rule it out for good, I went and got my 2nd alternator tested. Its fine. The interesting bit was where the guy said YOU HAVE TO HAVE A SECOND CHARGE LEAVING THE ALTERNATOR TO EXCITE THE DIODES TO LET THE MAIN CHARGE THROUGH. I didn't know that.
Aha. So its that ignition light thats the problem. So I bought a new bulb unit and replaced it... nice and cheap, problem solved - it lit!

and then it stayed lit....
Scratched head for a while. Why is that happening? alternator's fine, got a new ingition light unit... is it still not charging for some reason? the relay? or maybe some dodgy wiring along the way? Then I had a little thought. The light goes out when the leccy to the ignition light is balanced by that charging, so maybe as its a bigger alternator its putting out a bigger current and I should try a bigger bulb? Scrounged a bigger bulb from someone, stuck it on with tape and hey-presto the light goes on when not charging and goes out when charging. Just as it should.
I'm pretty sure now, the problem is solved, but will see what happens after another week! (Hopefully not a boat fire

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